This marshmallow training started about the time we returned home after the flood. It started as a potty training reward. Every time AG would use the potty she would get one mini marshmallow. Now when she goes potty and has dry pants she gets one mini marshmallow. She gets two for going number two. She loves this and has really responded well to it.
Marshmallows are also doled out for random acts of kindness (bringing someone their shoes because their feet might be cold (so sweet!) or cleaning up a mess that she didn't make without being asked) and for other good behavior (putting your shoes and coat away in the proper place or putting toys away before changing activities). The expectation in our family is that you do what you're told the first time and with a joyful attitude. A direction given by mommy or daddy should be responded to with a joyful "yes ma'am!" or "yes sir!" and the action carried out as was asked of you. Obviously this does not always happen but she is getting better at it. We also don't demand things of others or give commands to mommy and daddy. Instead, sentences are started with "please may I..." This is also a struggle sometimes for a two year old who spends 5 days a week with other 2 year olds at preschool, but when she forgets, a simple "try again" will typically yield the response we are looking for.
This is what works for us for this particular child and I am so thankful it does. She is such a good girl and we couldn't be more thankful that God chose us to be her parents.